Over-reverence for the pastor - or any religious figure for that matter - creates barriers for the black man, she says, because he feels like he must compete for the No. "It doesn't make you more attractive if your life is filled with these 'other' men," Cooper says."If they feel like they have to compete, you are not going to be interesting because you're not feeding his ego in the way it needs to be fed." Mark K.Forston, son of a black preacher in Forest Park, Georgia, says some black women "put their pastor on this pedestal and have a large amount of faith in him because he is a living source of salvation." Sometimes women even focus their romantic feelings on the pastor, says Forston."Regardless if he's married or not, sometimes human desires will transcend beyond certain parameters and that's dangerous territory."But I do agree that some black churches teach women that they must only date a man that goes to church regularly." Watkins, who is African-American and whose father is a Southern Baptist minister, described his interactions with southern women who are devout churchgoers.
Mr Robertson said: "Violence in the streets, ladies and gentleman — why is it happening?The literal interpretation of certain scriptures can lead to subjugating women, Weems says.However, positive scripture messages, about love and justice, do exist and can be used to empower women rather than keep them "single and lonely." Weems says Cooper fails to examine deeper threads.She's the type of woman who can recite scriptures with ease, her love of faith evident in her speech. Yet, according to relationship advice columnist Deborrah Cooper, it is this devout style of belief and attachment to the black church that is keeping black women like Davis -- single and lonely.
Clinging to the gospel Cooper, a writer for the San Francisco Examiner, recently made claims on her blog Surviving that predominantly black protestant churches, such as African Methodists, Pentecostal, and certain denominations of Evangelical and Baptist churches are the main reason black women are single.
According to the PEW study, "African-American men are significantly more likely than women to be unaffiliated with any religion (16 percent vs. Nearly one-in-five men say they have no formal religious affiliation." Watkins believes the social structure of the church keeps black men from attending.